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In the end, it all comes down to trust and risk. How much do you trust this person and how much do you want to give as far as details goes, what can someone do to harm you when they have your data? That you're asking here tells me you're not really sure if you can trust this person. There are risks involved (such as real life threats or maybe a possible scam) but it is not easy to identify risks without knowing the full situation, as you explained it rather vaguely.

To me the whole situation sounds kinda phishy to be honest. Are you sure you didn't fall for a phishing or scam attempt by helping this other person?

Most countries do have PO boxes and other rent-able post solutions such as Poste Restante (as suggested by Molot in the comments) so you don't have to give out your own personal details.

Many countries' postal systems have general delivery by which you can receive a package held at a post office for you to pick up, without having to give the sender an address. This might be an option for you.

In order for anyone else to assess how risky the situation is, I think you need to elaborate more on your relationship with the sender and the favor you performed for them. The vague way you've stated it is a big red flag for scams, involvement in money laundering, etc. but it may be that you've just poorly stated the situation out of a wish for privacy. At the very least though you should mention (or at least reflect upon for yourself) whether you had any relationship with the person prior to their asking you for a favor and whether you expected to be compensated in any way for the favor.

The whole favour thing--which they initiated--sounds rather like a setup aimed at getting your personal info. So I would recommend being very cautious here, and graciously declining their offer. Ask them to "pass it on" or "pay it forward" or something. The more they demand to get your info, the more suspicious you have a right to be.

Depending on the country you are in, your physical address is enough to do quite a lot of damage, or at least cause a huge amount of nuisance. Common examples:

• An antagonist using your address to order delivery of unwanted, pay-on-delivery things (pizzas being the canonical example, but I've also been subject to Internet pranksters sending evangelicals to my home to try to convert me)


• Being "doxed" and have your private information put online for stalkers/harassers to take advantage of


• In the US, Swatting, which has resulted in deaths and significant property damage


• Your address can also be used to socially-engineer others into e.g. giving up other identifying information, seizing domain names, or making you an unwitting part of a "lost delivery" or "brushing" scam

So you are probably right to limit sharing your mailing address to people you don't know if you can trust with the information.

As other answers have stated, you can minimize your exposure by using a PO box or similar; you may also be able to find mail hold-and-forward facilities that can handle individual pieces of mail or parcels (which usually charge by the piece of mail and whatever additional handling is necessary for the forwarding itself); this can be much more convenient to you than a PO box, as well as less costly overall since you don't need to rent it on a monthly basis.

Just giving out the address is no problem, as long as you limit it to the address. Don't you have phone directories "white pages" or similar where you live?

Think about it, hundreds of people probably have your home address. Of course, any of them could send you something illegal, immoral etc but as long as you act reasonably (E.g., you open an envelope and there is something that looks like drugs in, as long as you immediately call the police and you live in a reasonable country, nothing will happen to you. Rather, you will be greeted as some local hero if some local paper hears of the story.) there won't be any problems.

Same goes for this situation.

Be careful about personal information. There was a crime in Austria reported some days ago, where people ordered stuff online to some strangers addresses and then redirected it through an app from the delivery service. Of course they never paid anything but the strangers got payment reminders.

I've got a news article about this, but unfortunately only in german. (Try a translater): https://wien.orf.at/news/stories/2948455/

In the UK, Belgium and Holland, most corner shops are part of one or more logistics networks, and hence drop-off points for senders; with many also pickup points. Often (via say Amazon.UK or Bol.com etc) you can choose them as destination from webshops. These same networks should fit in the chain that gets the package to you.

It's a very reasonable idea to tell the sender: You'll be out at work (though I use my work address for such, which has a receptionist!) so would hate to miss the gift. So go to the cornershop where they know you by sight or name, ask if you can get it delivered in your name ["A.E. Neumann, C/O The Corner Shop, 12 High Street, Mummerset"] there. This doesn't unload the risk onto them, as its your name and their location so not relevant to any bank account or so.

But consider they might find your real address even then. E.g., in the UK, I was surprised when googling my name for free it clearly hints my longterm partners (several addresses shared over time; precise up to city quarter if not paying for the data; a mixture of Electoral roll data before opting out, and other sources).

I wouldn't judge this approach risky; in the real world there's thousands of instances where your details have been taken at a higher risk. I once got one UK parking fine (escalated over months of non-paying) while not owning a car, having no driving license, nor living (nor having lived) in the country; somebody had declared to the parking attendant that it was my car, and passed my details (collected from a B&B guest registration years before, in another country, because very very specifically misspelled)! Of course in ID-card-less UK there's no trace of the original declarant (I bet the then-owner), and I think no legal way for an individual like me to find the car owner's info from their numberplate. To get the bailiffs off eventually took months, hours of paperwork, various registered letters, and a statement from the DVLA (the UK "DMV") that I wasn't the owner.

I do not know where you meet that person or what kind of relationship you two have, it does sound a little bit weird to ask for your personal address if you are just begining your relationship. I personally do not think that giving your address posses a terrible risk, it is usually fairly easy to access this data and unless the person is determined to damaged you (i.e. if you had a bad argument or any other cause) I would not think that we wants to swat you for free, for example.

Ask for a tracking number, the only problem would be if this person contacts you asking you to pay some taxes/wages because of a problem with the package... the story reminds me a litte bit of a common Tinder scam (military romace scam: http://www.cid.army.mil/romancescam.html).

EDIT: As @Kevin says, of course it can be a risk to share your address with someone you do not trust to the point that you think he is able to do you some serious damage utilizing your address.